Make Changes or Make Excuses, the Choice is Yours
How often have you focused on the reasons not to do something rather than on how you can do it? How many times have you heard ‘if you really something you will find a way to make it happen? The reality is only you can make it happen.
Making excuses isn’t the answer – it’s the escape. You must stop and decide if is it important to you? If the answer is yes, then you will find a way and if not well then you will find an excuse.
Quote from Kenneth Blanchard, “There is a difference between interest and commitment. When you are interested in doing something you do it only when it’s convenient. When you are committed to something, you accept no excuses only results.” This quote is very meaningful to making changes in your life as you also need to determine interest and commitment.
I have a saying on my wall – ‘Don’t think outside the box, think like there is no box.’ And I am very much a representation of this as I do not let the norm stop me from exploring new opportunities or new paths. I try very hard to be conscious of others and not let them define who I am or what is important to me. I am a mom, wife, professional and strong woman who strives to be the best every day. To accomplish this, I must be fearless when exploring and making changes. I have a strong support structure that I lean on often to keep me moving forward. I have learned that relying on my support structure keeps all things real.
I have been there, one of those who made excuses however I realize that if I really want something I must make it happen. Excuses are endless and take time to create. I look to myself and my support structure to call me on the carpet when I make an excuse. I trust that they know me as I know myself and they want the best for me. The reward is so sweet!
Here are the three areas to focus:
1. Stay positive
• Do not let the challenge lead you to negativity.
• Do not let others define you or steal your dreams.
2. Work hard
• Great things require investment, hard work is your investment in yourself.
• Do not look for the easy path, stay the course and the reward will come.
3. Make it happen
• Only you can make it happen for you.
• You must want it bad enough to see it through.
• You need to maintain the balance to reap the reward.
• You must accept assistance when you need it.
• Do not think or plan to do it alone – it really does take a village to build great things.
The key to all of this is knowing your support structure is there for you and
reaching out to help you remain grounded to your goals and dreams. If you
stop at any point you will never know what could have been.
Remember the ABC’s:
a) Ask for help, lean on your support structure.
• I have created a FB community to help bring folks together
looking to build their support structure, please feel free to
leverage this as one channel.
b) Be fearless, thoughtful and creative when faced with challenges or
presented with opportunities.
• Being creative is meant to explore all possibilities on the how
• Being thoughtful is to think through and mindful of your life
• Being fearless is proceeding with confidence and not letting
others deter you from your goals and dreams.
c) Choose to Support others who you find faced with similar
Paying it forward is always a great practice and can be rewarding.
Kenneth Blanchard is an American author and management expert.
His extensive writing career includes over 60 published books, most of
which are co-authored books. His most successful book, ‘The One
Minute Manager’, has sold over 13 million copies and been translated
into many languages.